How to Survive the Holidays with a Chronic Illness

Accept Your Current Condition

This is a good place to start. The thing about chronic illness is, you never really know what to expect. How are you feeling this week? Are you in the middle of a flair? Have you been struggling with fatigue or nausea? Are you on the rebound and feeling a little more energetic than usual?

Take a look at how you feel and decide if you can do the things you want to do or if it will just be an energy drainer. Don’t push yourself to do things you will not enjoy for the sake of the holidays. Instead conserve it for things that you know you can do and that will fill your heart with happiness.

Keep Your Options Open

Having a back up plan is the best way to make sure you enjoy the magic of the season. If you are planning a night out, keep a “just in case we have to stay in” option in mind. Planning a dinner? Make it pot luck style so you don’t have to do all the cooking. Or have a catering backup.

When my boys were little I always had a secret stash of backup plans. If we made plans to go out I made sure I had a “staying home plan.” A pack of premade cookies to decorate or hot cocoa and a special movie. This way, I didn’t feel that guilt of not going out and instead we could stay home and make memories. Grab things here and there that you can stash away and pull out when plans have to change.

Treat Yourself Too

Oh the joy of holiday spending. It’s like a 3-month shop-a-thon, unless you are one of those people who shop all year round. Buying for friends, family, co workers, the mailman. Always buying for everyone one else.

Whether you are at the mall shopping or in bed on Amazon, make sure you buy yourself a little something too. I feel like I am always trying to give to or help others because I feel so guilty for needing their help. You too? Treat yourself for once and get those extra comfy socks or the bath bombs. Get a new candle that you have been wanting. A little something just for yourself to enjoy. You deserve it!

Remember the Why

Why do we celebrate? Why do we feel pressured to give the best gifts and throw the best parties. Take a minute to remember what the holidays are actually about. The best gift we can give our friends and family is not actually a perfectly wrapped present but our actual presence.

The holidays aren’t about going big. Your decorations don’t have to be flashier than your neighbors. Your cookie plates don’t have to be filled with perfectly decorated cookies. The holidays are about spending time with the people that you love and love you back.

Just Say No!

Read that again. Just say no. And don’t apologize for it either. Let’s be real here. There are going to be times where you physically can’t, and other times when you just don’t want to. You don’t have to go to every holiday party you are invited to. Pick and choose which ones are the most important, and go from there.

You don’t have to be a part of the neighborhood spookiest house contest or the company cookie exchange. If you don’t feel like going out, just say no. If you already had plans, just say no.

Check Your Expectations at the Door

Every year I say, I’m going to go bigger than the year before. I’m going to put up even more Christmas lights and decorations. I’m going to make even more food for Thanksgiving. I’ve been saying that for years and then the time comes and I think to myself, do I really need to? Do I have to make everything from scratch? Do I have the energy and the budget?

It might sound cheesy, but it’s worth it to remember that the most important thing is that everyone is together and healthy. What the kids will remember most isn’t all the decorations or hours spent slaving away in the kitchen. They’ll remember the time shared together.

When it comes to getting through the holidays I know to go easier on myself now. I’ve learned to accept help when it is offered and to let things go when they become too much. Are the holidays feeling heavy for you too? Put it down. Be thankful. Share a meal with loved ones. Be Merry. Spend time with friends. Be you. And you will survive the holidays too!